Discovering that you might be a less-than-stellar kisser or dating someone with subpar kissing skills can be uncomfortable.
A study revealed that more than half of respondents would consider ending a relationship due to bad kissing. Fortunately, becoming a better kisser is entirely possible.
How to know if you’re a bad kisser
Kissing is a skill that some might master while others have a problem with.
Going too hard or too fast
Kissing is very similar to a dialogue, and should start as gently as you would any other conversation.
Start slow, especially during the first kiss, and be attuned to your partner’s cues, unless your partner has expressed a preference for a different approach.
Lack of enthusiasm
Display your attraction through your kiss. Being too reserved may hinder the romantic connection you’re trying to establish.
Technique needs refinement
Develop your kissing technique over time. Pay attention to factors like tongue usage, head angle, and the placement of your hands, and pay attention to what your partner reacts positively or negatively to.
Poor personal hygiene
Basic hygiene is crucial. Regular showers and proper dental care are essential to prevent unpleasant moments.
How not to be a bad kisser
Kissing, just like any other skill can be improved.
Read your partner
Every person is different so it’s only obvious that everyone prefers to be kissed differently. Practice mindfulness during kissing, appreciating the moment itself rather than viewing it solely as foreplay.
Build tension
Start with gentle kisses and gauge your partner’s reactions, build up some tension before intensifying the experience.
Engage your whole body
Engage your hands thoughtfully, adding an extra layer to the kiss by using touches to convey emotions.
Be open to feedback
Overcome insecurities by seeking feedback from your partner. Vulnerability not only improves your skills but also deepens your relationship.
How to help a bad kisser
Instead of breaking up with a bad kisser, guide them on how you like to be kissed.
Lead them
Lead by example and demonstrate the kind of kissing you enjoy, helping your partner understand your preferences. Sometimes a person isn’t a bad kisser, they’re just not kissing you the way you want.
Mirror each other
If subtlety doesn’t work, take turns kissing each other the way you both like. This approach allows for mutual understanding.
Use your words
Communicate openly about your preferences, focusing on positive aspects and gently suggesting improvements. Always remember to be gentle, no one likes harsh criticism.
Being a bad kisser shouldn’t be a relationship dealbreaker, as there’s always room for improvement. Invest time and effort into honing your skills, and if necessary, guide your partner towards becoming a better kisser.
Remember, effective communication and a willingness to learn can transform a less-than-perfect smooch into a memorable and enjoyable experience.
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