The initial stages of dating can seem deceptively simple, but they often entail the daunting task of deciding whether to continue pursuing a relationship.
Unfortunately, there’s no precise number of dates that guarantees insight into your chemistry and compatibility with another person.
Here are some key considerations to help you make an informed decision.
1. Temporarily set aside deal breakers
During the first date, try to set aside your usual list of deal breakers and approach your date with an open mind.
Use subsequent dates to gradually assess whether any deal breakers arise. Remember, both parties may be nervous, so keep an open mind before passing judgment on quirks like referring to pets as “children”.
2. Give them a second chance
Unless the first date is truly disastrous, consider giving your potential partner a second chance before deciding whether or not they’re for you.
Just as you wouldn’t want others to judge you solely based on the first impression you made, extend the same courtesy to your date.
3. Tune into your feelings
While it’s important to analyze your date for compatibility, don’t overthink every moment.
Pay attention to how you feel when you’re together.
If you find yourself mentally disengaging during conversations or not enjoying shared activities, it may be a sign that they’re not the one.
4. Notice your reactions when apart
How you feel when apart from your date can be just as revealing. Take note of your initial reaction to their texts or suggestions to meet up.
Additionally, observe how often you discuss your date with friends, as it can offer subconscious insights into your true feelings.
5. Trust your instincts
Trust your gut instincts about the person you’re dating.
If even after a few dates you still don’t feel the chemistry, it’s likely not meant to be. Don’t ignore your intuition.
6. Don’t delay decisive action
While ending things may be awkward, prolonging ambiguity benefits no one. If you’re certain the relationship isn’t progressing romantically, you have to have an honest discussion with your date to respectfully express your feelings.
